These three approaches constitute a highly dynamic process and offer opportunities for the improvement and maintenance of a relationship, or for a secure decision to live separate lives.
In my experience, the following are typical questions:
- How can partnerships be more successful?
- What mistakes can we avoid?
- How do we organize our everyday life with less stress?
- Should we shack-up?
- How do we improve the quality of our sex life?
- We argue constantly and it annoys – how do we deal with it better?
- How do we deal with parents/parents-in-law?
- What do our children need from us?
The three concepts of counseling, therapy, and mediation describe three different approaches to our work, namely:
I would like to share my knowledge and my experience of pair-dynamics, the individual psyche, Social psychology, developmental psychology, etc., and discuss what a further approach may look like.
Mediation with couples:
This is about a concrete disagreement ( “he always …”, “she never …”) which we first consider, and then by means of mediation reach a viable solution with concrete behavior for the future. Even in the case of a separation, mediation can help to find the best possible solutions for all parties involved in an extremely difficult situation and can calm and stabilize the situation.
We work on the underlying feelings and wishes of the partners. Both partners enter into intensive contact, which I control, so that both will come down to earth and another controversial fight doesn’t flare up. We work on mutual understanding, trust and appreciation. If necessary, we can also work on long-running behavioral patterns. Couple therapy can intensify your relationship, make you happier, and ensure the long-term viability.
In couple-therapy, I work with, among other things, the methods of communication psychology, schema therapy, psychodynamics of the unconscious of the couple, cognitive relationship therapy, and the findings of the well-known American psychologist David Schnarch.