These three approaches constitute a highly dynamic process and offer opportunities for the improvement and maintenance of a relationship, or for a secure decision to live separate lives.

In my experience, the following are typical questions:

  • How can partnerships be more successful?
  • What mistakes can we avoid?
  • How do we organize our everyday life with less stress?
  • Should we shack-up?
  • How do we improve the quality of our sex life?
  • We argue constantly and it annoys – how do we deal with it better?
  • How do we deal with parents/parents-in-law?
  • What do our children need from us?

The three concepts of counseling, therapy, and mediation describe three different approaches to our work, namely:

Couple counseling:

I would like to share my knowledge and my experience of pair-dynamics, the individual psyche, Social psychology, developmental psychology, etc., and discuss what a further approach may look like.

Mediation with couples:

This is about a concrete disagreement ( “he always …”, “she never …”) which we first consider, and then by means of mediation reach a viable solution with concrete behavior for the future. Even in the case of a separation, mediation can help to find the best possible solutions for all parties involved in an extremely difficult situation and can calm and stabilize the situation.

Couple therapy:

We work on the underlying feelings and wishes of the partners. Both partners enter into intensive contact, which I control, so that both will come down to earth and another controversial fight doesn’t flare up. We work on mutual understanding, trust and appreciation. If necessary, we can also work on long-running behavioral patterns. Couple therapy can intensify your relationship, make you happier, and ensure the long-term viability.

In couple-therapy, I work with, among other things, the methods of communication psychology, schema therapy, psychodynamics of the unconscious of the couple, cognitive relationship therapy, and the findings of the well-known American psychologist David Schnarch.